A thoughtful read from the perspective of the one who cheated.

Surviving the affair....the cheaters perspective

Affairs are like snowflakes.  There is never two that are identical.  If that premise is true then why do people think that all affairs will be healed the same way.  Affairs are made up of at least 3 people and each of those people are completely different from each other so to say that they will view an affair exactly the same way and can be healed the same way is short minded.

I read religiously about a variety of things but one thing I have noticed is that there are many different parts that need to be healed in an affair from all sides.  And they do not always heal in the same way, in the same time frame, nor in the same order.  There are also other parts to the relationships that also may need to be healed as well.

Just pretend that the affair happened with a…

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